Stop Treating Your Life as a Competition

Competition is something I feel that is more prominent now than it ever used to be and I believe social media has a big part to do with it. That feeling of being constantly stressed out, overwhelmed or on the verge of tears. Secretly being annoyed when you see someone who seems to have everything. Or feeling like you are not good enough. Trust me, that was me and if I’m being honest, it still is from time to time.

Sometimes, it’s you trying to keep up (or create) an image. Because what you post on Instagram, Snapchat, and Facebook isn’t what your life actually looks like — but this picture you created of yourself that you want other people to see and believe. 

It’s tiring, right? 

So how do we stop? Comparing ourselves to other people so we can be happy with our own lives? Here are some tips I’ve found on how to stop treating your life as a competition and just.. LIVING.

SOMEONE ELSE’S SUCCESS DOESN’T TAKE AWAY FROM YOURS.

Ok guys, listen very carefully. We can ALL be successful. You can admire someone else’s beauty without questioning your own and you can give someone else a compliment AND give yourself one too. I learned it doesn’t have to be one or the other. So the next time someone wants to celebrate their win (big or small), celebrate with them. When you say congratulations, actually mean it.

IT’S OKAY TO GO AT YOUR OWN PACE.

You’re not doing yourself a favor when you compare your journey with someone else’s. We area all different. We have different interests, goals, strengths and weaknesses and we often seem to compare our situation with someone else who we have no clue about. 

The truth is that we don’t always see the whole picture.

We don’t see the 7 years they spent working on their craft. We don’t see their meltdowns and bad moments. Sometimes, we don’t get to see them as a whole person. They are on their own journey, and you are on yours and your paths may cross, but they don’t have to compete.

Whatever pace you’re going at is a good one — and if you don’t like it, remember that it’s up to you to change it.

At the end of the day know who you are, what you want and also realize that that IS enough. As you get older you start to realize that you don’t have to prove your life to other people. Stay in your lane and life will always work out the way it’s supposed to.

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