We live in a world these days where it feels like it’s all about keeping up with the Joneses 24 hours a day, 7 days a week, don’t you agree? I mean lets be honest, you can’t say no because people will look at you with judging eyes. You can’t say no because you will most likely upset your colleagues. And you can’t say no because you feel guilty and scared that no one will like you anymore.
I’ll be honest, I used to live and breathe this mentality. That is, until I decided that it was an absolutely ridiculous way to live my life to say the least.
Listen, I’ve been there and done that. I used to say yes to just about everything and feel like I had to be everywhere and do anything that people wanted me to do to fit in. I won’t sit here and say I had an awful miserable life doing it but I will say, it was exhausting and it’s not like I wanted to be at every party, event, gathering or dinner, if that makes sense. I got to an age in life where I started realizing that I needed to stop worrying about what everyone else thought of me and start thinking about what I wanted from myself. What did I want to do with my life and how did I want to spend my Friday or Saturday night? At the end of the day, you only live once in life and why should anyone else’s version of life indicate the way your life should be?
So here I go — I regret the times when I failed to say no just because of peer pressure. Saying yes to everyone is stressful. It’s selfish. And it’s definitely not good for your mental, physical and spiritual health! So don’t! Start thinking of YOU and start saying no when you truly need to. Say no to people you don’t like, no to parties you don’t enjoy and definitely no to anything that doesn’t make you a better person in the end.
A few things to remember:
You can’t control everyone’s opinion of you. You know that saying you can never please everyone? Well the same goes here in a way. Everyone is going to have an opinion and that’s just the name of the game. Whatever you do, whatever you say, people will judge you either fairly or harshly. Don’t sweat the small things. Don’t let it ruin your day.
Your happiness will be made up of the choices that you make in life. If you’re not sure about something, say no to it. If you’re hesitant because you know deep inside your heart that you’re not too thrilled about the idea, say no.
Life flows, it moves and it progresses whether you say no or not. You can spend the rest of your life running around because you say yes all the time or you can spend your life relaxing and savoring every minute because you say no to the things that don’t really matter. It’s your call.
But hey, that’s just the opinion of this thirty year old. You do you.
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I think that we’re all “guilty” of not knowing how to say no and not feel like we’re doing something bad or missing out on something by doing so. I still struggle, much less than before but still too often of drawing the line and realising that I can’t be everywhere for everybody and do everything by myself.
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Well said, I totally agree with you! Recently I started thinking that I have very little free time and that I decide how and with whom to spend it!
Gemma
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Hey I agree wiv ya. . It’s an acquired talent for sure and it’s so hard to be an expert of so many things
I felt the pressure and it showed
“Se retrouver tout nu”